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Friday, April 24, 2009

Make Love, Not War

“The first duty of a leader is to make himself be loved without courting love. To be loved without ‘playing up’ to anyone - even to himself”
Andre Malraux, French philosopher

I confess: I took a little break, did a little skiing, spent a lot of money–doing my part to help stimulate the economy. Whenever I’m faced with adversity, I make the usual plans to help turn things around, but I also make a point NOT to forget doing things for pleasure. It helps get me through the bad times and strengthens me for what lies ahead.

And speaking of bad times: Like many of you, Doctor J has lost a major source of her income. I’m faced with re-inventing myself, and getting creative about ways to pay the rent, live life and most importantly feed the cats in the manner to which they have become accustomed. If not for The Maestro, whose generosity knows no bounds, I'd really be in deep doo-doo.

Nevertheless, at this moment I’m feeling curiously optimistic. Why? Perhaps it’s because of our new President and his incredible partner. Have you noticed how well they work together and how connected—both physically and emotionally—they are to each other? This is my area of expertise, and I can tell you this is not an act, folks; it’s pure attraction. They positively glow in each others’ presence. Call me Dr. Dreamer, but I get the sense that these are two people who can’t get enough of each other.

And it’s also clear to me that they’re both very physical, sensuous people, very aware of and proud of their own bodies.

How does this observation contribute to my feeling curiously optimistic? I can’t help but feel that someone who’s so grounded in his own body is someone who would be loath to do any kind of harm to others. In fact, there are some valid studies to support this feeling. Several years ago, a government survey examined most of the world’s nations and measured their rates of involvement in conflicts (wars), contrasted with the status of women in these societies and attitudes about sexuality. Guess what the researchers found (drum roll please)? Of the societies where women had the highest status and in which attitudes about sexuality were the most open, those countries were also involved in the fewest conflicts. And of the nations found to be the most “warlike,” those tended to be societies in which women had few rights and sexuality was repressed.

So there you have it: According to the scientists, sex + women’s rights = peace. Now that’s a study I can live with!

Remember, when you think peace, think women’s rights and sex. On that note, let me wish peace to each and every one of you.

Next week, as promised, we’ll be back with more of our hands-on Top 10 for Men: Do It Yourself Sex: If It Feels this Good, Why Do They Say It's So Bad?
With Pleasure,

Dr. J