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Friday, March 07, 2008

Heal Your Self and You Heal Yourself!

“The people who say they don’t have time to take care of themselves will soon discover they’re spending all their time being sick.”
Patricia Alexander, Book of Comforts

I’m Sick and Tired of Being Sick and Tired!

That’s right: I’ve been thinking about this subject a lot lately—not only because several members of my family have been felled by this season’s killer flu, but most especially because one person who is very special to me has just been through major surgery. “But Dr. J, I don’t get sick, and I’ve never had surgery, so what does any of this have to do with me?” All of us, whatever our age, will eventually experience some physically challenging period in our lives which can affect our sexuality. So file this away under “Dr. J’s Wise Words of Wisdom for the Future.”

Talk about Opening Up and Sharing!

Ten years ago, I had a minor surgical procedure myself, and I remember quite distinctly how easy it was for me to shut down my own sexuality while I was going through the healing process.

This Just In...

Of course, who should know better than Dr. J that this is the worst possible thing to do to yourself? Why? Because our individual sexual health is inextricably entwined with our overall health. Are you feeling poorly? Well, remember how great you feel when the object of your desire touches you; not to mention how wonderful you feel when you touch someone you desire? And let’s not forget how fantastic you feel when you have an orgasm! So even if you’re bedridden, that doesn’t mean you can’t try visualizing yourself as sexy and desirable as all get-out. Open yourself up to them, and those old urges will return before you know it. Keep in mind that an orgasm stimulates the release of endorphins. And just what are endorphins? Those special hormones that help elevate your mood and contribute to a sense of well-being.

Here are some fun, indoor ideas for those times when you’re recovering from illness, injury, or just feeling like it’s an emotional rainy day.

Three Words: Accessorize, Accessorize, Accessorize!

Ever notice what school kids do when they’re fettered with a cast? They paint it, they draw on it, sometimes they even make it into an artistic collage—but the important thing is they do anything and everything they can to adorn it so that it becomes an attractive part of their ensemble. Think about it, when you look better, it actually helps you feel better too.

So, is your arm sporting a large bandage? Hmm. How about tying a colorful scarf around it? Got the flu or a cold? Just because you’re stuck in bed doesn’t mean you can’t wear your nice PJs or lingerie. Whatever the situation, when you’re stuck with lemons, there’s no reason you can’t make up a batch of sweet, delicious lemonade.

You get the idea: the more you turn all those various mementos of healing into symbols of attractiveness, the sexier you’ll feel.

Hey Everybody, Let’s Eroticize Surgical Stitches!

Wow. Now there’s a challenge! Let’s see…what can we do? How about asking a partner to gently rub the area with a bit of Vitamin E oil? Double bonus, that: Vitamin E not only helps heal your body, but being touched helps heal your soul. That’s like seeing a dollar on the ground, picking it up and realizing it’s a ten dollar bill. Let me help you with the math—that would be a good thing.

Here’s wishing you all a happy, healthy, sexy March. And don’t forget: Welcome Spring with a bang!

With Pleasure,
Dr. J


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