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Thursday, September 21, 2006

An Orgasm Is an Orgasm Is an Orgasm, Part 2

(Conclusion of “What’s all that Stuff Down There and What Does It Do?”)

“Sex is one of the nine reasons for reincarnation. The other eight are unimportant” Henry Miller

Female/Male Differences

We’re actually more alike than different. Up until the 6th week of fetal development, all crotches look female. Around week 6, if the fetus is male, testosterone-related hormones begin to affect the male crotch, and it differentiates into a penis and testicles. If these hormones are prevented from being released, the crotch will develop as female. All mammals develop this way, and women and men share the same embryonic crotch tissue. It just looks dissimilar. Next time you’re thinking that men and women are from different planets, remember we’re all sisters under the skin!

There are a few responses unique to each sex:

1. A major difference between women and men is that generally, the clitoris needs constant direct or indirect stimulation, unlike the penis. In general, stimulation up and down the penis shaft results in male orgasm; but for most women, orgasm results from a constant circular motion around the shaft and glans of the clitoris. Once a woman’s orgasm begins, if the stimulation is removed, the orgasm will end; whereas, once men have that first contraction, not even a neutron bomb will stop their orgasm!

2. All male mammals experience a refractory (“recovery”) period after orgasm, during which no amount of stimulation will result in orgasm. During teen years, it may be very short. Age, physical health and genetics are contributing factors to the length of this period. But: just because you might not have another orgasm soon does not mean you can’t still enjoy being sexual. In fact, if you focus only on orgasm, you’re going to miss lots of the fun.

3. Conversely, women are capable of an indeterminate number of orgasms without resting. If a woman is receiving effective stimulation, she can stay up close to orgasm and keep “peaking” indefinitely. Many women experiment with this during self-pleasuring, only stopping because of fatigue, hand or foot cramps or decreased interest.

4. For women who experience cramps during their period, orgasms are a must. During your period, the uterus contracts to expel blood and tissue, and you get cramps. However, the uterus also contracts during orgasm, thus expelling any blood and tissue during a pleasurable event and alleviating cramps. The more orgasms you have during your period, the less pain you’ll have because you’ll get rid of all that built-up blood and tissue.

5. The G-Spot: Some women experience orgasm from stimulation of the tissue located on the top (front) wall of the vagina, about 1 inch inside the opening. Looking at the vaginal opening as a clock, this would be the area between 10 a.m. and 2 p.m. The G-Spot is not sensitive in all women, but many report intense orgasms accompanied by expulsion of fluid. Some women worry about the messiness of this fluid. If you’re concerned about this, keep plenty of towels or extra sheets to put on your bed, or have these orgasms in the shower, or outside. Be creative!

6. Why can’t I urinate when I have an erection? Uric acid can harm sperm; so when arousal begins, an internal sphincter closes off the bladder from the urethra, and it doesn’t reopen until erection goes down.

This concludes the four-part series, “What’s all that Stuff Down There and What Does It Do?” Now that we’ve covered the basics, we’re going to move on to what people actually do, and how they feel about it. Next week: Fantasies and Self-Pleasuring: Fun Facts

As always, the Doctor is in for your questions and comments.

With Pleasure,
Dr. J


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