tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-319807732011-12-30T11:26:49.030-08:00Fun sex facts and accurate information from a clinical sexologist for a hotter and more fulfilling sex life.Dr Jhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01586557024585095866noreply@blogger.comBlogger1131100tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31980773.post-55841127189246322932011-12-30T11:21:00.000-08:002011-12-30T11:26:49.040-08:00

“The future always arrives too fast—and in the wrong order.” Alvin TofflerCongratulations everyone! You made it through another year! Some of you breezed through (I got a new job/car/lover/cdog). For others, it was a struggle (my rent went up; my cats turned against me; I lost a toe surfing). But for most of us, it was some of each (my boyfriend left me, but then this totally cool guy moved

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But the fire is so delightfulAnd since we’ve no place to goLet it snow! Let it snow! Let it snow!“Let It Snow,” Sammy Cahn and Jule StyneSo here I sit: My skis are waxed, I’m ready to hit the slopes, and guess what? Rough skiing – no snow. Well, not yet anyway. It’s supposed to start snowing next week (and that helps me how?). And here I was all set to relieve the snow monkey on my back this

Dr Jhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01586557024585095866noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31980773.post-88343103772738932232011-11-22T14:17:00.000-08:002011-11-22T14:25:33.794-08:00

"Gratitude is a twofold love -- love coming to visit us, and love running out to greet a welcome guest." ...Henry van Dyke, late 19th-early 20th century American author and educatorThe holidays are upon us, and whatever you celebrate, you’re likely to be inundated with food, drink, shopping and stress. Our body image can take a big hit when we get on the scales in January to discover that

Dr Jhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01586557024585095866noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31980773.post-2958653584168216052011-11-15T18:54:00.000-08:002011-11-15T19:00:15.767-08:00

I'm Baaaack!Hi there! I know I've been AWOL for ages, but I now have a bit more free time, and I resolve to once again entertain and inform you. I'm just back from the annual meeting of the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality, where I caught up with my old friend, Marty Klein. The following is his commentary on our conference. Enjoy!The Pleasures of Sexual Science By Marty Klein,

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And now, because you asked for it, here's an updated version of my original post on jealousy. Seems it never goes out of style, so perhaps this refresher will pique your interest.The Green-Eyed Monster: Sexual Jealousy and the Concept of “Ownership"“O, beware, my lord, of jealousy! It is the green-eyed monster which doth mock the meat it feeds on.” William ShakespeareI heard an old song the other

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“Nearly all men can stand adversity, but if you want to test a man’s character, give him power.” Abraham Lincoln Just in case nobody has ever told you, let me be the first: Power is an aphrodisiac. It gets you into all the best places, it introduces you to interesting and influential people, it’s headier than any perfume, and I hear it can be even more intoxicating than drugs or alcohol. (I hear

Dr Jhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01586557024585095866noreply@blogger.com9tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31980773.post-29256519990176367392010-01-11T16:48:00.000-08:002010-01-11T16:52:53.113-08:00

“The future always arrives too fast—and in the wrong order.” Alvin TofflerCongratulations everyone! You made it through another year! Some of you breezed through (I got a new job/car/lover). For others, it was a struggle (my rent went up; I lost a toe surfing). But for most of us, it was some of each (my girlfriend left me, but then this totally cool woman moved in down the hall!). Let’s face it:

Dr Jhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01586557024585095866noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31980773.post-51847544609557324062009-12-23T15:48:00.000-08:002009-12-23T15:51:54.775-08:00

So stick up ivy and the bays, And then restore the heathen ways, Green will remind you of the Spring, Though this great day denies the thing, And mortifies the earth, and all But your wild revels, and loose hall. Henry Vaughan, 17th cent. Poet Dear Readers: This is a slightly rewritten version of my '06 holiday message. Why mess with a good thing?I’m in a silly holiday mood. Something about this

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“I know love and lust don't always keep the same company.”Stephenie Meyer, Twilight, 2005The last tasty morsel of turkey has been stripped from the bone, and the crusty remnants of stuffing have been unceremoniously thrown out. Boys and girls, Dr. J is officially ready to rock and roll.For the next few weeks, we’re going to mine the rich vein of couples’ sexual concerns. And when I say “couples,”

Dr Jhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01586557024585095866noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31980773.post-11768468697213118392009-11-23T14:54:00.000-08:002009-11-23T14:57:38.871-08:00

Fiery colors begin their yearly conquest of the hills,Propelled by the autumn winds.Fall is the artist.Takayuki Ikkaku, Arisa Hosaka and Toshihiro Kawabata, Animal Crossing: Wild WorldThe holidays are upon us, and whatever you celebrate, you’re likely to be inundated with food, drink, shopping and stress. On a happy note, here are a few holiday ideas not just for surviving, but thriving:Holiday

Dr Jhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01586557024585095866noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31980773.post-66290133261790104612009-11-20T14:38:00.000-08:002009-11-20T14:43:24.041-08:00

So I promised a new post, and what happens: H1N1. Your favorite Dr. J was attending a scientific meeting in Puerto Vallarta (don't feel sorry for me) and spent the return flight in a cabin full of sneezing, coughing maniacs. But I'm starting to feel better and will post my usual Thanksgiving message next week. And after that, we'll start catching up.With Pleasure,Dr. J

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OMG! Has it really been since July that I've posted? Bad, bad Dr. J! I've been neglecting you, dear readers, and I should be spanked. Any takers?Here's my excuse: I've been appointed Co-Chair of an upcoming sex research symposium and have also just been elected to the Board of my sexological society. Add these to my existing teaching and MedHelp obligations, and you have one over-extended

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“Men live in a fantasy world. I know this because I am one, and I actually receive my mail there.”Scott Adams, creator of DilbertSo here we are, still having some fun with a list of questions I like to call the Top 10 Men’s Concerns, representing the most common sexual concerns expressed by men. We’ve already discussed penis size and shape issues, spent some time on self-pleasuring (that was SO

Dr Jhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01586557024585095866noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31980773.post-29245619812706128012009-07-17T14:19:00.000-07:002009-07-17T14:28:12.240-07:00

“I wouldn’t recommend sex, drugs, or insanity for everyone, but they’ve always worked for me.”Hunter S. ThompsonWe’ve just had another big influx of readers. So in addition to welcoming all you newbies, here’s a note about how to get the most out of this blog. As regular readers can attest, you might find it a bit different from other blogs you’ve read because my intention is to be both

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“We have reason to believe that man first walked uprightto free his hands for masturbation.”Lily TomlinHappy summer to you all (at least those of you in the Northern Hemisphere). A few weeks ago, we began looking at an assortment of concerns drawn from actual questions I’ve received from real readers just like you. Keep in mind that this particular Top 10 list represents the most common sexual

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“The first duty of a leader is to make himself be loved without courting love. To be loved without ‘playing up’ to anyone - even to himself”Andre Malraux, French philosopherI confess: I took a little break, did a little skiing, spent a lot of money–doing my part to help stimulate the economy. Whenever I’m faced with adversity, I make the usual plans to help turn things around, but I also make a

Dr Jhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01586557024585095866noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31980773.post-85939213872225269712009-02-18T14:27:00.000-08:002009-02-18T14:34:39.693-08:00

“It’s 10 Inches Long, Hard As a Rock and Can Go All Night”Bernie Zilbergeld, Ph.D., The New Male SexualityAlas, I’ve been a neglectful Dr. J, but I’m back, dear readers and ready to have some fun with a list of questions I like to call the Top 10 Men’s Concerns. You read that right: for the next few weeks, we’ll be looking at an assortment of concerns drawn from actual questions I’ve received

Dr Jhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01586557024585095866noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31980773.post-12103413692626049662009-01-12T13:51:00.000-08:002009-01-12T14:00:50.290-08:00

“An inordinate passion for pleasure is the secret of remaining young.”Oscar Wilde**A note to all you guys: Not just for women; this particular post includes lots of helpful information for you as well.**Everybody’s favorite Dr. J has survived the holidays; and as promised, I’m ready to rock n’ roll again. We’ve been looking at a wide assortment of concerns drawn from actual questions I’ve

Dr Jhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01586557024585095866noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31980773.post-17221103691210897542008-12-23T14:31:00.000-08:002008-12-23T14:37:00.210-08:00

And in with the oh-so-new. And hope. And joy. We are sooo going to have a Happy New Year. You betcha.See you in '09With Pleasure, Dr. J

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But the fire is so delightfulAnd since we’ve no place to goLet it snow! Let it snow! Let it snow!“Let It Snow,” Sammy Cahn and Jule StyneSo here I sit: My skis are waxed, I’m ready to hit the slopes, and guess what? Rough skiing – no snow. Well, not yet anyway. It’s supposed to start snowing next week (and that helps me how?). And here I was all set to relieve the snow monkey on my back this week

Dr Jhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01586557024585095866noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31980773.post-44206938485962758912008-12-05T16:31:00.000-08:002008-12-05T16:34:31.220-08:00

“Fifty percent of the women in this country are not having orgasms. If that were true of the male population, it would be declared a national emergency”Margo St. James, social activistAs promised, it’s time for some more holiday fun with a list of questions I like to call the Top 10 Women’s Concerns. For the next few weeks, we’re looking at an assortment of concerns drawn from actual questions I’

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“Gratitude is a twofold love -- love coming to visit us, and love running out to greet a welcome guest.”Henry van Dyke, late 19th-early 20th century American author and educatorAlas, I’ve been neglecting you, dear readers, but I have a very good reason: Dr. J has been working her fingers to the bone, attending a scientific meeting in Puerto Rico. I know, I know: it’s a hard life, traveling all

Dr Jhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01586557024585095866noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31980773.post-84721412727590933862008-11-13T13:42:00.000-08:002008-11-25T16:35:44.809-08:00

Hi. Just a quickie to say I've just returned from a sex research meeting, loaded down with new ideas to share with you--soon. I promise.In the meantime, ponder on those first two words in the title: Hope; Change.And beware of Business As Usual: lately, several drug company marketers have been leaving "comments" on some of my posts, endeavoring to dupe you all into buying products. As soon as I'm

Dr Jhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01586557024585095866noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31980773.post-30095595929284980552008-10-09T14:52:00.000-07:002008-10-10T11:43:28.623-07:00

“Education's purpose is to replace an empty mind with an open one.”Malcolm ForbesLoveIn the past two weeks, we’ve discussed our own country’s utter lack of effective sex education and the fact that many parents seem to dread taking responsibility when it comes to answering their own kids’ questions about sex. And how do we know that parents feel this way about sex? Maybe it’s because most get

Dr Jhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01586557024585095866noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31980773.post-569734218947845882008-09-16T10:41:00.000-07:002008-09-16T10:49:04.293-07:00

“Nothing in the world is more dangerous than sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity.”Martin Luther King Jr.Asked a Girl What She Wanted To BeLast week, we discussed how myopic, right-wing politics and politicians tend to treat sexual issues with a blanket we’ll-just-hide-our-heads-deep-in-the-sand-and-legislate-that-BY-LAW-everyone-else-must-do-the-same-and-in-that-way-everything-we-aren’

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“The foundation of every state is the education of its youth.”Diogenes You Who Are on the RoadAs everyone knows, we’ve just finished going through the major political conventions here in the U.S.; and during the past week, if you were paying even the slightest attention, you were bombarded with reminders of the abject failure of an “abstinence-only” education. Watching a 17-year-old victim of

Dr Jhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01586557024585095866noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31980773.post-68879056517127809312008-08-22T14:39:00.000-07:002008-08-22T14:50:35.077-07:00

“Instead of giving money to found colleges to promote learning, why don't they pass a constitutional amendment prohibiting anybody from learning anything? If it works as good as the Prohibition one did, why, in five years we would have the smartest race of people on earth.”Rita Mae Brown (American Author)That’s right! It’s our second anniversary. I first began posting entries to this blog in

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“Sex with love is the greatest thing in life.But sex without love -- that’s not so bad either.”Mae WestFor those of you playing along at home, we’ve been discussing our socio-sexual response—more simply put, that means how we each respond socially, emotionally—and let’s most certainly not forget physically—to the things that we each in our own individual way respond to as sexual stimuli. We’ve

Dr Jhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01586557024585095866noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31980773.post-54742901125552400322008-08-01T13:20:00.000-07:002008-08-01T13:36:38.605-07:00

“If sex and creativity are often seen by dictators as subversive activities,it’s because they lead to the knowledge that you own your own body(and with it your own voice),and that’s the most revolutionary insight of all.”Erica JongGetting to Know YouFor the past few weeks we’ve been examining how we function in the “Socio-Sexual Response Cycle” or SSRC. Simply put, this is how we respond socially

Dr Jhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01586557024585095866noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31980773.post-53731561613066233692008-07-26T15:40:00.000-07:002008-07-26T15:50:37.856-07:00

“You can complain because roses have thorns, Or you can rejoice because thorns have roses.”Ziggy (comic strip by Tom Wilson)Look Up!When it comes to sex, attitude is everything. You’re much more likely to encounter a positive outcome if you approach things with a positive attitude (and doesn’t THAT feel good!). When you operate under lots of rules and conditions, sex probably becomes a chore for

Dr Jhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01586557024585095866noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31980773.post-9001539167970216002008-07-18T14:09:00.000-07:002008-07-18T14:14:23.718-07:00

“In summer, the song sings itself.”William Carlos WilliamsWhat comes to your mind when you think of summer? Swimming pools, barbeques, white dresses and sandals, lemonade, camping out… And how about one more: outdoor sex! I’m reminded of an old poem: “Hooray, hooray, it’s the first of May. Outdoor fucking starts today!”Where was I? I sort of drifted off there for a minute. Oh yes. I wasn’t

Dr Jhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01586557024585095866noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31980773.post-9368858920521413312008-07-11T13:03:00.000-07:002008-07-11T13:09:23.613-07:00

"Those who restrain desire, do so because theirs is weak enough to be restrained."William BlakeAs Seen on TVJust about every time I turn on my TV, I hear someone use the term “sex drive,” and every time they do, it means something completely different. Of course, as a professional sexologist it’s up to me to clear up all this confusion. Why? Because everyone thinks that everyone else knows

Dr Jhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01586557024585095866noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31980773.post-89637475774838563312008-07-03T13:11:00.000-07:002008-07-03T13:25:35.648-07:00

“We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.” The Declaration of Independence. This is an update to last year’s July 4th post. It’s now 2008, and I’m still pondering those weighty words above–-and of course, I feel compelled to add

Dr Jhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01586557024585095866noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31980773.post-39439562479694850742008-06-28T23:01:00.000-07:002008-06-30T11:15:33.960-07:00

“I wonder if other dogs think poodles are members of a weird religious cult.”Rita Rudner, ComedianTo Recap…Dr. J’s been very busy teaching some very intensive workshops, and now I’m feeling bad for having neglected all of my faithful readers. But fear not, I’m back and hope that all is forgiven…Did you miss me?In the past few weeks, we’ve been discussing the fact that while some sexual concerns

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“The important thing in acting is to be able to laugh and cry.If I have to cry, I think of my sex life.If I have to laugh, I think of my sex life.”Glenda Jackson, British ActressTo Recap…Welcome back! For the past few weeks we’ve been discussing the fact that while some sexual concerns are indeed the result of physiological factors, the reality is that we all have a variety of individual concerns

Dr Jhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01586557024585095866noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31980773.post-33031133047461199962008-05-23T13:45:00.000-07:002008-05-23T13:56:40.931-07:00

“An intellectual is someone who has found something more interesting than sex.”AnonymousOur Story Thus Far…Last week, we discussed that the popular new way of looking at sexual concerns is to treat them as simple matters of plumbing, to be tweaked, fixed and “cured,” etc. by the application of a magic pill. Of course, some sexual concerns are indeed the result of physiological factors. However,

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“I believe that sex is one of the most beautiful, natural, wholesome things that money can buy.”Steve MartinOur Story, Already in ProgressWaaay back on April 4th, we started discussing the latest campaign by the pharmaceutical industry aimed at convincing us that science has found the perfect pill to fix everything from clearing up acne to making sex perfect (whatever that means).It’s ever so

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"A man should not leave this earth with unfinished business. He should live each day as if it was a pre-flight check. He should ask each morning, am I prepared to lift-off?" Northern Exposure (1991)The doc is in mourning. I'll be back next week with Part 2 of "The Big Lie."In the meantime, especially for you new readers, here's a reprise of a very important and enlightening post:http://

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Chairing a scientific meeting in San Diego and then off for a lovely--and much-needed--vacation. Bet you can't guess what I've been doing! Really, really needed the rest! Back next week with Part 2 of our last post. Promise. With Pleasure, Dr. J

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“One pill makes you larger,And one pill makes you small.And the ones that Mother gives youDon’t do anything at all.”“White Rabbit” Grace Slick,Jefferson AirplaneThe Doctor Is inWouldn’t it be great if you could actually take a pill that would not only solve ALL your sexual problems, but answer every one of your personal questions and concerns for good measure? How about a pill that made you want

Dr Jhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01586557024585095866noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31980773.post-53908470278343810252008-03-25T11:29:00.000-07:002008-03-25T11:41:36.519-07:00

“Nearly all men can stand adversity, but if you want to test a man’s character, give him power.”Abraham LincolnJust in case nobody has ever told you, let me be the first: Power is an aphrodisiac. It gets you into all the best places, it introduces you to interesting and influential people, it’s headier than any perfume, and I hear it can be even more intoxicating than drugs or alcohol. (I hear

Dr Jhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01586557024585095866noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31980773.post-23819361647500679892008-03-14T11:44:00.000-07:002008-03-14T11:50:35.848-07:00

“Stand by your man, and show the world you love himKeep givin’ all the love you canStand by your man”Tammy WynetteBy now we’ve all heard about the latest “sex scandal” in which the governor of a large eastern state has allegedly spent thousands of dollars on sex-for-pay. There he stood, for all to see in the 21st century version of the old stock and pillory, his wife stoically beside him, as he

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“The people who say they don’t have time to take care of themselves will soon discover they’re spending all their time being sick.”Patricia Alexander, Book of ComfortsI’m Sick and Tired of Being Sick and Tired!That’s right: I’ve been thinking about this subject a lot lately—not only because several members of my family have been felled by this season’s killer flu, but most especially because one

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“Nothing astonishes men so much as common sense and plain dealing” Ralph Waldo Emerson It’s Leap Day of a Leap Year. That means it’s time to “Leap” to a few new conclusions. Wait! This blog isn’t about that; it’s about exploding misconceptions. Almost lost my head there (must be that extra day this month). 10 Things He Does When You’re Not Around (You’ll Be Shocked!) Honestly, that’s an actual

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"The pen is mightier than the sword and considerably easier to write with."Marty Feldman, British comedian The Maestro is down with the flu, and the Doc is doing nurse duty. So today we welcome guest columnist and resident romantic, #9.***Attention all eCupids! Why not try a nice, old-fashioned love letter for your special someone this Valentine's Day? And while you're busily arranging to have an

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“I wish people who have trouble communicating would just shut up”Tom LehrerIn which we further explore the whys and hows of talkin’ sex…You: “What do you want to do tonight?”LYL (Light of Your Life): “I don’t know. What do you want to do?”If you and your partner were to actually talk about sex, is that what it would sound like? Be honest. Sometimes we just don’t know what it is we want, and if we

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“Let us make a special effort to stop communicating with each other, so we can have some conversation”Judith Martin (Miss Manners)It’s tempting to engage in an orgy of self-improvement projects at the beginning of the New Year. That’s why many of us turn to magazines with articles like, “Tell Him Your Every Desire” and “Are You the Strong, Silent Type?” which encourage us to work on communicating

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“Think left and think right and think low and think high.Oh, the thinks you can think up if only you try!”Theodor Geisel (Dr. Seuss)Let’s get one thing straight: Whatever turns you on, turns you on—it all contributes to what I like to think of as your individual “erotic personality,” if you will. You can’t change your fundamental orientation; but by being creative, you can add to it by trying out

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“Sexually, we are all competing for the same seat on the busAnd the thing that holds it together is the tightly held conceitThat we are all sexual gods““Northern Exposure” 1993Let’s talk about "porn star sex.” You know: those hardy folks who spend thousands of dollars getting various implants and cosmetic surgeries so they can make a living doing something that’s both frenetic and unsafe to hard,

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“The perfect lover is one who turns into a pizza at 4:00 a.m.”Charles PierceEverywhere you look, there it is: something about New Year’s resolutions. Lose weight, get in shape, blah, blah, blah. Let’s turn this practice upside down and focus on some FUN resolutions, like: · Get some new lingerie—either for yourself or for your partner—or both! And did somebody say get some new toys? Is that

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“To face unafraid,the plans that we’ve madeWalkin’ in a winter wonderland”“Winter Wonderland” Felix BarnardDo you feel like you’re running in this year’s seasonal marathon? You know—the one where you dash madly from one holiday obligation to another while trying frantically to find the perfect gift for that special someone we’ll call your “Light of My Life (LML)”?How about treating both yourself

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“Oh the weather outside is frightfulBut the fire is so delightful…”Let It Snow, Jule Styne and Sammy CahnWell, OK. I’m from California, where the holidays are more likely to bring beach weather than snow. But I still associate this time of year with snowmen, sleighs and …sex! Sex with a snowman on a sleigh? Why not? There are worse ways to celebrate winter.Can you tell I’m in a silly holiday mood

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It's the Maestro's birthday, so I'm shopping, menu planning, guest listing and obsessing. What to get him? Will he like it? Will it fit? Who to invite? What to serve them? Now is when I remind myself that birthday celebrations are supposed to be enjoyable. You know: FUN.Deep breath. That's better.Back next week to begin our annual discussion of how to keep the holidays sexy.With Pleasure,Dr. J

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“If you want to be respected, you must respect yourself”Spanish ProverbCan We Talk?Readers send me the occasional email asking why I don’t publicly support a particular candidate, social policy, or political agenda. If I wrote about that here, I’d just be sharing my unsubstantiated personal opinion with you, and you’d either applaud me for parroting your beliefs, or stop reading this blog because

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"Be glad of life because it gives you the chance to love and to work and to play and to look up at the stars."Henry van Dyke, late 19th-early 20th century American author and educatorLast year, I wrote the following:The holidays are upon us, and whatever you celebrate, you’re likely to be inundated with food, drink, shopping and stress. On a happy note, here are a few holiday ideas not just for

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“Everything you can imagine is real.”Pablo PicassoSorry I fell off the grid last week. I’ll just say two words in my own defense: “Killer” and “Flu” (the gift no one wants to unwrap). But now I’m back; and though I might not be ready to party like a rock star, I sure am ready to talk sex (so what else is new?).The Main CourseSo what’s on the menu for this week? Three guesses and the first two don

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“So we are proud to reclaim the word ‘slut’ as a term of approval, even endearment. To us, a slut is a person of any gender who has the courage to lead life according to the radical proposition that sex is nice and pleasure is good for you.”Dossie Easton and Catherine Liszt, The Ethical SlutOur Story So FarLast week, we explored those nagging little voices in our head that tend to undermine our

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“Maybe I’m just like my mother; she’s never satisfied”Prince, “When Doves Cry”Do women know what they really want? As a card-carrying woman myself, I often wonder – do we even realize what questions we should be asking ourselves? We waste so much time with questions like: “If I lose 10 pounds, will I be sexier?” “Am I having the ‘right’ kind of orgasm?” and “What’s up with chocolate?” Why do so

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First, you’ll be happy to know that I took my own advice and healed myself with some great sex. Even though I felt decidedly unsexual and unsexy, I knew once I allowed myself to get turned on, I’d lose those negative thoughts and have a great time. And, as always, it worked. I’m on the way back to health and no longer having uncharitable thoughts about others.Which got me to thinking…Can the

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“Every patient carries her or his own doctor inside”Albert SchweitzerStruck down by an early season flu: fever, sore throat, lost my voice (which doesn’t totally displease The Maestro).There’s no time that we feel less sexy/sexual than when we’re ill. And yet, paradoxically, that’s the time when we can get the most benefit from the healing power of sex.Think about it: when do you feel that

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“An inordinate passion for pleasure is the secret of remaining young.”Oscar WildeI was looking at my calendar, and it occurred to me that I first began posting entries to this blog in August 2006. Let’s write this down under the heading “better late than never” and mark this auspicious occasion by doing what most people do on significant anniversaries: reflect back and look to the future.WHY IS

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“The people's good is the highest law.”Cicero“The only way to get rid of a temptation is to yield to it. Resist it, and your soul grows sick with longingfor the things it has forbidden to itself.”Oscar WildeWhatever it is you’re doing right now, just stop it! That’s right; stop it right now, because I’m willing to bet even money that whatever it is, it’s illegal somewhere in the U.S.* Are you

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“A lie can travel half way around the world while the truth is putting on its shoes.”Mark TwainI was looking at a medical site the other day and came across yet another plea from a young woman who wanted help to stop self-pleasuring, which she insisted was robbing her of her “power.” Once again, in this day and age, our sexual ignorance continues to amaze.I’ve heard so many myths and

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“Life in Lubbock, Texas, taught me two things: One is that God loves you and you’re going to burn in hell. The other is that sex is the most awful, filthy thing on earth and you should save it for someone you love.” Butch Hancock, Songwriter/MusicianI received the following email from a reader:***"I watched an old TV episode that really annoyed me because itused one of those tired old TV/movie

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“Nothing defines humans better than their willingness to do irrational things in the pursuit of phenomenally unlikely payoffs. This is the principle behind lotteries, dating, and religion.”Scott Adams, Humorist***Note: This four-part series is intended to help men who want to meet women, which is generally more difficult for men because there’s usually the expectation that they’ll make the first

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“Drawing on my fine command of language, I said nothing.”Robert Benchley***Note: This four-part series is intended to help men who want to meet women, which is generally more difficult for men because there’s usually the expectation that they’ll make the first move, etc. However, this information may be equally helpful to women. If you haven’t read the first two parts, drop down to Part I and

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“Why doesn't she like me? Is it my hair, my overbite, the fact that I've worn the same shirt and shorts for the last four years?”Bart Simpson***New readers: Here’s a note about how to get the most out of this blog. As regular readers can attest, you might find it a bit different from others you’ve read because my intention is to be both entertaining and educational. Each new post is based on

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“I'm too shy to express my sexual needs except over the phone to people I don't know.”Garry Shandling***New readers: Here’s a note about how to get the most out of this blog. As regular readers can attest, you might find it a bit different from others you’ve read because my intention is to be both entertaining and educational. Each new post is based on information presented in the previous one;

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“Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work.”Thomas A. EdisonOiling UpOil-based lubricants can be fun, particularly when used by men for self-pleasuring. They’re not really the best choice for women, because they can actually contribute to yeast-infections. Oil-based lubricants also destroy latex products, which includes diaphragms and cervical caps

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"Lust's passion will be served; it demands, it militates, it tyrannizes."Marquis De SadeWe all need a little help sometimes, and I’m not just talking about an extra hand. This is where your favorite lube comes in--well, handy. Lubes aren’t just helpful; they also provide a decidedly pleasurable enhancement. Lubes can be fun, and you owe it to yourself to be playing and experimenting with them.

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“Summer lovin', had me a blastSummer lovin', happened so fastMet a girl, crazy for me,Met a boy, cute as can be,Summer days drifting away,To, uh oh, those summer nights"Summer Nights, by Jim Jacobs and Warren CaseyFrom the musical “Grease”Summer’s here, and barbecues and temperatures aren’t the only things heating up – check your calendars, people, because now is most definitely the right time

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“We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.”The Declaration of IndependenceAs we here in the U.S. get ready to celebrate July 4th, I can’t help but ponder those weighty words above–-and of course, I feel compelled to add women to

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“One half of the world cannot understand the pleasures of the other.”Jane Austen**Happy Anniversary, Ginny and Jim!**Loving a woman means allowing yourself to be overcome by the desire to kiss and lick that magical mysterious spot—no, south of there: her crotch. I’ve spoken to many men and women who say there’s nowhere they’d rather be than between their woman’s thighs. Others do it to please

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“Graze on my lips; and if those hills be dry,Stray lower, where the pleasant fountains lie”William ShakespeareLickSuckStrokeTongueNibbleYum.Guys, it’s your turn. Time for everyone’s favorite subject: how to go down on a man (and drive him wild). In a previous post, I covered some general aspects of oral sex; now it’s time to go deeper :}Here’s a story which may or may not be true:Everyone

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“To believe that God doesn’t like sex is like believing that God doesn’t like you: we all wind up carrying a secret shame for our own perfectly natural sexual desires and fulfillments. We prefer the beliefs of a woman we met who is a devoted churchgoer. She told us that when she was about five years old, she discovered the joys of masturbation in the back seat of the family car, tucked under a

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“Pleasure is the object, duty and the goal of all rational creatures.”VoltaireHere’s something to ponder over the long holiday weekend.What are your conditions for good sex? You know: the deal-breakers.Many of us get caught up in being sexual, in the heat of the moment—without really thinking anything through—so it’s less about what WE might like to do and more about what our partner wants. From

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Hi all. It seems that sex and gender is a hot topic with everyone! Last week's post engendered so many good comments that I'm reprinting them here, along with some commentary.The first sequence is from Love Slave, with comments by myself and reader SDK. It's an excellent example of how hard it is for all of us to begin the process of talking to our partner and how rewarding it is when we finally

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“The world is not divided into sheep and goats.The living world exists on a continuum.”Alfred Kinsey Welcome New Readers!You may find this blog a bit different from others because my intention is to be both entertaining and educational. Each new post is based on information presented in the previous one; so to get the maximum benefit, I recommend you begin with the introductory post from the

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“I consider sex a misdemeanor; the more I miss, de meaner I get.”Mae WestWelcome New Readers!As regular readers can attest, you may find this blog a bit different from others because my intention is to be both entertaining and educational. Each new post is based on information presented in the previous one; so to get the maximum benefit, I recommend you begin with the introductory post from

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“When authorities warn you of the sinfulness of sex,there is an important lesson to be learned.Do not have sex with the authorities.”Matt Groening, Life in HellWelcome New Readers!You may find this blog a bit different from others because my intention is to be both entertaining and educational. Each new post is based on information presented in the previous one; so to get the maximum benefit, I

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“The only unnatural sex act is that which you cannot perform.”Dr. Alfred KinseyWelcome New Readers!You may find this blog a bit different from others because my intention is to be both entertaining and educational. Each new post is based on information presented in the previous one; so to get the maximum benefit, I recommend you begin with the introductory post from the August archive and read

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We're just a bit late for Solstice and Passover, right on time for Easter and slightly early for Earth Day. At this time each year, I like to take a few minutes to reflect on what these celebrations have meant to various peoples on our planet. It's a time of renewal and optimism, so enjoy!The Doc is entertaining this week: On Sunday, family and friends will be joining us in the garden for food,

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“Spring has sprung; the grass is riz;I wonder where the flowers is?”Welcome! If you’re new to this blog, start at the introduction in the August archives to the right and then read forward to catch up.***Ah, Spring: Solstice, bunnies, matzoh, Earth Day.Spring fever? Got it. As soon as the sun warms up, I’m out in the garden, planting flowers and fairly itching to throw off all my clothes. (Oops.

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“Something there is that doesn't love a wall, and wants it down"Robert FrostWelcome! If you’re new to this blog, please read the last two weeks’ posts for the first part of this story—or better yet, start at the introduction in the August archives to the right and then read forward to catch up.Three weeks ago (remember when we started this whole “frequency” journey?), we discussed your wanting to

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"Politics doesn't make strange bedfellows, marriage does.”Groucho MarxWelcome! If you’re new to this blog, please read last week’s post for the first part of this story—or better yet, start at the introduction in the August archives to the right and then read forward to catch up.If Mr. Wonderful and SuperWoman v 2.1 came to me with their issues, here’s what we’d do:Suppose Mr. Wonderful were

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“Life without sex might be safer but it would be unbearably dull.”H. L. Mencken, American humoristThere’s a scene from a movie in which there’s a split screen, showing each member of a couple, separately, at their therapist, answering a question regarding how often they have sex. He says: “Hardly ever! Three times a week.” She says: “All the time! Three times a week.”Inevitably, some of us

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“Just saying ‘No’ prevents teenage pregnancythe way 'Have a nice day' cures chronic depression”Faye Wattleton, former President of Planned ParenthoodGrowing up, we learn to manage various aspects of personal hygiene and care such as bathing and brushing our teeth, integrating them into our daily routine. Why, then, is it so difficult for us to incorporate sexual management issues into our regular

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“O, beware, my lord, of jealousy! It is the green-eyed monster which doth mock the meat it feeds on.”William ShakespeareI heard an old song the other day, “You Belong to Me.” I think most of us can agree that the concept of “belonging” to someone—or “owning” someone—can be quite compelling and very hot when incorporated into a sexual fantasy. However, most of us have to live in a place I like to

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“You mustn’t force sex to do the work of love or love to do the work of sex.”Mary McCarthy, American authorWelcome New Readers!As regular readers can attest, you may find this blog a bit different from others because my intention is to be both entertaining and educational. Each new post is based on information presented in the previous one; so to get the maximum benefit, I recommend you begin

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“Sex is perfectly natural, but not always naturally perfect”Welcome New Readers!You may find this blog a bit different from others because my intention is to be both entertaining and educational. Each new post is based on information presented in the previous one; so to get the maximum benefit, I recommend you begin with the introductory post from the August archive and read forward from

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Don't panic; just taking a week off. Back next week with the usual fun facts and goodies. If you haven't had the time to read this blog from the beginning, now is your chance to get up to speed. And of course, even though there's no new post this week, you can still make comments and ask questions. Dr. J

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“Two monologues do not make a dialogue”Jeff Daly, Actor/WriterWelcome New Readers!As regular readers can attest, you may find this blog a bit different from others because my intention is to be both entertaining and educational. Each new post is based on information presented in the previous one; so to get the maximum benefit, I recommend you begin with the introductory post from August and read

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"Tell me and I'll forgetShow me and I'll rememberInvolve me and I'll understand”Confucius“How to Tell Him What You Want,” “If You Don’t Talk, She’ll Walk,” etc. We’ve all seen countless newspaper and magazine articles with titles like these claiming to teach us how to communicate better within our relationships.Rubbish, I say. Rubbish and poppycock (I say that, too). The fact is we’re already

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“Then sing, young hearts that are full of cheer,With never a thought of sorrow;The old goes out, but the glad young yearComes merrily in tomorrow”Emily Miller, “New Year Song”Congratulations everyone! You made it through another year! Some of you breezed through (I got a new job/car/lover). For others, it was a struggle (my rent went up; I lost a toe surfing). But for most of us, it was some of

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So stick up ivy and the bays,And then restore the heathen ways,Green will remind you of the Spring,Though this great day denies the thing,And mortifies the earth, and allBut your wild revels, and loose hall.Henry Vaughan, 17th cent. PoetI’m in a silly holiday mood. Something about this time of the year brings out my inner child. Girl wants to play, exchange presents by a warm fire, share holiday

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“We never do anything well till we cease to think about the manner of doing it”William Hazlitt, 18th century authorDuring the past week, we were favorably reviewed by Janesguide.com ("staff choice") as well as several European sites; and as a result, we've had another huge influx of readers. So in addition to welcoming you newbies, here’s a note about how to get the most out of this blog. As

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“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”Anais NinIn the past week, we’ve had a huge increase in readership; so in addition to welcoming you newbies, here’s a note about how to get the most out of this blog. As regular readers can attest, you might find it a bit different from others you’ve read because my intention is to be both

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“When things don’t work well in the bedroom, they don’t work well in the living room, either”Dr. William H. Masters (Masters & Johnson)I want to welcome any new readers to this blog. As regular readers can attest, you might find it a bit different from others you’ve read because my intention is to be both entertaining and educational. Each new post is based on information from the previous one;

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"Gratitude is a twofold love -- love coming to visit us, and love running out to greet a welcome guest." ...Henry van Dyke, late 19th-early 20th century American author and educatorThe holidays are upon us, and whatever you celebrate, you’re likely to be inundated with food, drink, shopping and stress. Our body image can take a big hit when we get on the scales in January to discover that

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“When both genders feel free to answer ‘yes’ or ‘no’ with no concern for anything but their own desires, a truer understanding, and a more positive sexuality, can be achieved.”Dossie Easton and Catherine Liszt, The Ethical SlutMost of us are no longer bound by the restrictive gender roles of the past. Society is changing: as more women enter the workforce, more men are actively parenting, and

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