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Monday, January 11, 2010

Help! It's a New Year!

“The future always arrives too fast—and in the wrong order.”
Alvin Toffler

Congratulations everyone! You made it through another year! Some of you breezed through (I got a new job/car/lover). For others, it was a struggle (my rent went up; I lost a toe surfing). But for most of us, it was some of each (my girlfriend left me, but then this totally cool woman moved in down the hall!). Let’s face it: right about now most of us can use a small jolt of self-analysis. The start of a new year is a great time to reflect on what’s transpired, as well as look forward and think about making any changes. It can be like reading a book about yourself (and you’re the hero!), remembering all the fun you had (that time we kissed in the car and wound up late to dinner) as well as the missteps (my parents were so mad at us because the restaurant wouldn’t hold the table).

New Year’s resolutions get short shrift these days (can anyone tell me if shrift is a metric measurement?). Many claim resolutions aren’t effective because we forget about them right after the holidays. Actually, many people find resolutions helpful in deciding what is/isn’t working, and in organizing our thoughts into a coherent pattern so we can identify those things about ourselves we’d like to change. It’s beneficial to have some sort of framework, and that’s where New Year’s resolutions come in handy. If making a list of resolutions works for you, great; if not, see you next week in 2010.

Some of us are given to self-reflection, while the more action-oriented among us just want to get on with it. Maybe you don’t want to look back: (2009? Ugly, stupid year!), and if that’s the case, just fast-forward to next week’s post. My best wishes to all of you for a happy and healthy New Year full of love and joy. Play safe.

With Pleasure. Dr. J